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annotation: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
I finished reading Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle this morning. Unsure what to read next (because Unmasking for Life isn't out for another two days…), I opened up the Boston Public Library page with the plan to check out any staff lists; the "Similar to…" feature on Libby is… well, let's say it could be better.
Anyway, another BPL patron, Genera1America said, "The first chapter was the only useful chapter for me: explanation that there is a difference between stress and the stressor and the importance of completing the cycle of stress your body metabolizes." I agree with them on that, and the general criticism of the book that the audience seemed… young? even tho a lot of it was about career and co-parenting and romantic/sexual relationships with long term partners. Genera1America was nicer than me about what what I felt while reading it, that it was kind of patronizing? I don't need you to make Hunger Games references, especially since the science seemed good?
Here is a handout on the Oregon Health & Science University that pretty much sums it up; honestly, it seems like good advice and I am going to put it into practice but you can probably skip the rest of the book.
It was all very 101-level and if it was more explicitly targeted at younger women (in college or freshly graduated), it wouldn't've been so bad?
I was surprised to find myself reading it, going, Yep, I already do that… and that… and that… or I tried that but it didn't work for me. I was especially startled to discover that I've already befriended my "madwoman in the attic," what they call the inner critic. She no longer "whips" me (maybe… not the term of abuse I would've chosen in a book written by two white women) because we figured out that's how I ended up in a cult in undergrad; I did great in grad school without her constantly berating me and now she turns that criticism and anger out at the world, where it belongs. (Mixing my metaphors, the guilt I felt about this(🔒) doesn't come from my inner "madwoman in the attic" but my "Self" in the IFS sense; I did not live up to my best self in that moment but it's not unkind or irrational criticism to reflect on why I failed and how to do better.) She's good at identifying when the problem is, e.g., the patriarchy. (Also, it irritated me how the authors always went "(ugh)" after they said "the patriarchy.")
I never did decide on my next book, so if you've got a suggestion for what to read while I wait for The Autistic Person's Guide to Connecting, Loving, and Living Authentically to come out and/or for my library(ies) to get an ebook edition of Rediscovered: A Compassionate and Courageous Guide For Late Discovered Autistic Women (and Their Allies), leave 'em in the comments.
If Burnout was "self help 101," I'm looking for 200- or 300-level readings.
Anyway, another BPL patron, Genera1America said, "The first chapter was the only useful chapter for me: explanation that there is a difference between stress and the stressor and the importance of completing the cycle of stress your body metabolizes." I agree with them on that, and the general criticism of the book that the audience seemed… young? even tho a lot of it was about career and co-parenting and romantic/sexual relationships with long term partners. Genera1America was nicer than me about what what I felt while reading it, that it was kind of patronizing? I don't need you to make Hunger Games references, especially since the science seemed good?
Here is a handout on the Oregon Health & Science University that pretty much sums it up; honestly, it seems like good advice and I am going to put it into practice but you can probably skip the rest of the book.
It was all very 101-level and if it was more explicitly targeted at younger women (in college or freshly graduated), it wouldn't've been so bad?
I was surprised to find myself reading it, going, Yep, I already do that… and that… and that… or I tried that but it didn't work for me. I was especially startled to discover that I've already befriended my "madwoman in the attic," what they call the inner critic. She no longer "whips" me (maybe… not the term of abuse I would've chosen in a book written by two white women) because we figured out that's how I ended up in a cult in undergrad; I did great in grad school without her constantly berating me and now she turns that criticism and anger out at the world, where it belongs. (Mixing my metaphors, the guilt I felt about this(🔒) doesn't come from my inner "madwoman in the attic" but my "Self" in the IFS sense; I did not live up to my best self in that moment but it's not unkind or irrational criticism to reflect on why I failed and how to do better.) She's good at identifying when the problem is, e.g., the patriarchy. (Also, it irritated me how the authors always went "(ugh)" after they said "the patriarchy.")
I never did decide on my next book, so if you've got a suggestion for what to read while I wait for The Autistic Person's Guide to Connecting, Loving, and Living Authentically to come out and/or for my library(ies) to get an ebook edition of Rediscovered: A Compassionate and Courageous Guide For Late Discovered Autistic Women (and Their Allies), leave 'em in the comments.
If Burnout was "self help 101," I'm looking for 200- or 300-level readings.